In support of World Contraception Day on 26 September, Affinity Health, a leading provider of high-quality health cover, is encouraging open, honest conversations between parents and teens about contraception and sexual health. Early education can empower young people to make informed, safe, and responsible decisions.
Talking to your teen about sex and contraception isn’t a single conversation, but an ongoing dialogue. While it can be awkward at first, building trust and communication around this topic helps your teen feel supported and confident when facing decisions about relationships and sexual activity.
Why the Conversation Matters
Many teens start exploring their sexuality before they’ve had a chance to learn the facts about contraception and sexual health. Without the proper guidance, they often turn to friends, social media, or random websites for answers, which aren’t always reliable or accurate. That’s why it’s so important for trusted adults to step in with honest, clear information before misinformation does.
Teens who are informed about contraception are more likely to delay sexual activity, use protection when they become sexually active, and avoid unintended pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections (STIs). This is especially important during the adolescent years when curiosity is high, peer pressure is intense, and risk perception is low.
As a parent, your role is not to judge or shame, but to educate, guide, and listen.
Start the Conversation Early
It’s never too early to start discussing topics such as body changes, healthy relationships, and consent with your child. Starting these conversations early, in age-appropriate ways, helps build trust and makes it easier to discuss more serious topics later on.
Look out for everyday moments to bring it up, like something you see on TV, a news story, or something they learned in school. Let them ask questions and be honest with your answers. And if you’re not sure about something, say so, then look it up together. It teaches them that it’s okay not to have all the answers, and that learning together is part of the journey.
Focus on Facts, Not Fear
Avoid scare tactics or guilt-based language. Teens respond better to information that is accurate, respectful, and rooted in trust.
Explain the range of contraceptive options, including:
- Condoms, which help prevent both pregnancy and STIs.
- Birth control pills, which must be taken daily, don’t protect against STIs.
- Long-acting methods, like implants or IUDs, which are safe and effective for young people.
- Emergency contraception, for use after unprotected sex or contraceptive failure.
Make sure your teen understands that contraception is not just a “girl’s responsibility”, as all genders play a role in preventing pregnancy and protecting sexual health.
Talk About More than Just Pregnancy
Contraception isn’t just about preventing pregnancy; it’s also about keeping teens safe from sexually transmitted infections and helping them understand that they have control over their own bodies. It’s just as important to discuss consent, respect, and what constitutes a healthy relationship. Ensure your teen understands that it’s always okay to say “no” and that both parties must agree before anything happens. Most importantly, remind them that they can come to you if they ever feel pressured, confused, or uncomfortable; you’re there to listen and support, not to judge.
Handle the Awkwardness with Empathy
You might feel embarrassed. Your teen might cringe. That’s okay. The goal is not to be perfect, but to be present.
Tell your teen that you’re bringing it up because you care about them. You want them to have the tools they need to stay safe and confident. Reassure them that they can come to you with questions at any time.
If your teen doesn’t want to talk to you directly, help them find trusted adults or professional resources they can turn to, such as doctors, school counsellors, or youth clinics.
What if Your Teen is Already Sexually Active?
If your teen reveals they’re already sexually active, resist the urge to panic. Take a breath, stay calm, and thank them for their honesty. This is an opportunity to reinforce the importance of using contraception, getting tested for STIs, and setting boundaries in relationships.
Ask how they’re protecting themselves and offer support in accessing medical care if needed. Be open and non-judgmental, as they’re far more likely to keep talking to you in the future if they feel safe doing so.
Final Thoughts
Parent–teen conversations about contraception may feel uncomfortable, but they are among the most important steps in helping young people make informed, confident, and healthy choices. By creating a safe space for questions, setting the tone with empathy rather than judgment, and staying informed yourself, you empower your teen to protect their body, mind, and future. In support of these critical conversations, Affinity Health offers access to GP consultations, ensuring families have the tools and support they need to navigate adolescence with care.
About Affinity Health
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